“For everything there is a season,
a time for every activity under heaven.
A time to be born and a time to die.
A time to plant and a time to harvest.
A time to kill and a time to heal.
A time to tear down and a time to build up.
A time to cry and a time to laugh.
A time to grieve and a time to dance.
A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones.
A time to embrace and a time to turn away.
A time to search and a time to quit searching.
A time to keep and a time to throw away.
A time to tear and a time to mend.
A time to be quiet and a time to speak.
A time to love and a time to hate.
A time for war and a time for peace.”
– Ecclesiastes chapter 3
Have you ever been accused of “getting over it” too quickly, or not quickly enough?
I was watching an interview with a woman who wanted to enter the dating world a couple of months after a painful divorce. Her family and friends, she shared, were opposed to the idea, and told her she needed more time to “mourn” the demise of her long-term marriage. But she had mourned already. She’d been mourning long before the papers were signed.
The time was right for her.
Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to keep moving. And sometimes, you have to sit down at the side of the road for awhile. Only you can decide which choice is best. But there’s no need to feel guilty about the sitting-down times; those are part of the journey too.
Friends and family may urge you to get up, get back on the horse, get back in the game. Everyone says you should put it behind you, but you’re just not ready. Or, they may say you need longer to process the event, to mourn, to analyze, when all you want to do is get on with your life.
Bouncing back from life’s blows can take time, but that time is different for everyone. Let’s encourage those who are ready to move forward. But if someone needs to sit down at the side of the road for awhile, sometimes all we can do is sit beside them without judgment.
Today’s coffee mug: